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Wayne Richard posted a condolence
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Gerry ... from the other side of the country I am just finding out that you physically left us so long ago. I will miss your earthly presence as your warm, sweet, loving spirit lives on inside of me always.
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Abas of Borneo Island posted a condolence
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Jerry, it has been 1 year since that very sad day. You are not forgotten. You kind heart, loving smile, and helpful ways will always be cherised. Even though you are gone but still YOU are my friend, mentor, supervisor, and spiritual companion.
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Vicki posted a condolence
Saturday, January 19, 2008
My deepest sympathy to Eve and Jerry's daughters. Jerry was a great friend who always listened. How saddened I was when I found this memoral and announcement of his passing. I will miss him very much. My thoughts are with you all.
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R. posted a condolence
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
I just wanted to add, at this late date, my condolences to Jerry's family and friends. He was special and will be missed. I drive by his house on the way to work and just recently thought (after being away for a few months and going through some life changes) that I needed to see him again. My partner and I were in counselling with him for a year. It was challenging but rewarding. Anyway, I just wanted to find his number. So I was just shocked and saddened to read, online, of his death. I always felt safe in his home office and thought, strangely, I suppose, that therapy was supposed to feel different than this -- not so good and uplifting. Whenever we hit a hurdle, he would say, "well, now it's time to get creative." I'll remember those words -- and his sandy baritone voice and his beautiful chair-- always!!
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Brian Woodward posted a condolence
Friday, October 26, 2007
Eve,
I love you and Jerry, you both were so kind and warm to me while I was in Rochester. A spirit like his never really dies does it. . .I believe we will meet again. Thank you for your call and know that I have always and continue to keep you both near in my thoughts.
Brian Woodward
North Carolina
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Anna Cochrane posted a condolence
Monday, September 17, 2007
Great friend, mentor, psychologist and human being. I will miss you.
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Bob Shea posted a condolence
Friday, September 7, 2007
To Eve and family:
I've just learned of Gerry's death today, September 7th, and am saddened at the loss of a life guide, mentor, and mensch.
I was a patient of his for several years. With his guidance, I was able to heal wounds that had lasted years.
He opened my heart to deeper ways of simply being myself.
He will remain always the jovial, gentle Jewish Buddha who walked with me.
Peace and L'chaim.
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Kristen Baumbach (Virginia) posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
Gerry's class was one of the most memorable, challenging, and useful classes that I ever took. I will always remember him saying that you need to ""make a space"" for your thoughts and feelings. Gerry always gave me a unique perspective and had a direct influence on my own counseling style. Thanks Gerry!
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Judy Earley posted a condolence
Saturday, September 1, 2007
Dear Eve and family - So very sorry to hear of your loss. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Sincerely, Judy
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Courtney Henry posted a condolence
Friday, August 31, 2007
Even without Pema to occassionally greet me at the door, I still would have looked forward to class with Jerry at the helm every week. It's truly amazing how many lives one man can touch - and with such natural ease and earnest understanding. The world needs more Professor Rubensteins.
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heidi northrop eric perlman posted a condolence
Thursday, August 30, 2007
We really loved Jerry and his comfortable aura is hard to explain but obviously recognized by everyone who has met him.
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Irene posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
We called him “Dr. Jerry”. Such an understanding and compassionate man. He not only helped my husband (victim of child abuse) and I understand what needed to be done & understood ,but allowed us into his life over the 8 year period we saw him. He shared with us his hurt of his sister ‘s death. He shared with us the fun and challenges of ethnic over- abundance.
I knew he was hurting –in pain. I wanted to apologize for taking our stupid problems to him.
This was 5 or 6 years ago. I’ve always wanted to write him –too bad I didn’t.
I would have loved to be in a personal world solving conversation with him. We probably would have argued. We usually did. He understood my stubborn strength & vulnerability.
There are many who will always have you in their thoughts - Dr. Jerry.
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Dr. Jane Ruby posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
I am a doctor today because of Gerry...my mentor, my dissertation guide, and my friend. More importantly, he loveingly taught me to face my fears and laugh....just laugh. I am forever grateful to have known him and send my love to Eve and the rest of his family. We have all lost a bright and beautiful star.
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Dr. Jane Ruby posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
I am a doctor today because of Gerry...my mentor, my dissertation guide, and my friend. More importantly, he loveingly taught me to face my fears and laugh....just laugh. I am forever grateful to have known him and send my love to Eve and the rest of his family. We have all lost a bright and beautiful star.
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Dr. Jane Ruby posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
I am a doctor today because of Gerry...my mentor, my dissertation guide, and my friend. More importantly, he loveingly taught me to face my fears and laugh....just laugh. I am forever grateful to have known him and send my love to Eve and the rest of his family. We have all lost a bright and beautiful star.
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Celia and Kirk Smith posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Oh Eve, we were so shocked and saddened to hear about Gerry's passing. Our thoughts are with you. Words cannot express enough. Let Gerry hold you up at this time. Our prayers are with you. Gerry was quite the man! I will contact you. All our love.
Celia and Kirk
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Laura Rowland posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
I can't think of any other person I know who will live on forever the way Jerry will. His impact on my family spanned four generations during his life, and will continue for all generations to come. We are healthier, happier, and raising 'fairly' well adjusted children :-). When I think of how many people his life has touched this in this way and how he changed this world forever, I am truly humbled. As I try to make sense of the loss of father I always wished for, the man who resurected my faith in men, my the safety net and my friend, I remind myself to touch my heart and ask ""What would Jerry say"". I am always guided in a direction. I feel incredibly lucky to have known him and profoundly saddened that my son will not. My love and thoughts go out to his family and everyone who feels his loss.
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Patrice posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
I am saddened by the loss of what has been a life that was way too short. Jerry was an esteemed colleague and friend for many years. I could pick up the phone to talk and the time since our last conversation would melt away. It would seem as if we had only spoken days ago. He will be missed by many, many people who were fortunate to have known this incredible man.
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Jen posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Professor Rubenstein was a life-changing professor, instructing myself & a group of forever-friends in the skills of group counseling in his home 3 summers ago. We now have an unbreakable bond & we have Professor Rubenstein to always thank for that. You will be deeply missed, Professor Rubenstein!!!
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Betsie Lays posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
To Eve, Jennifer and Heather,
I must have been a patient of Gerry's for 5-6 years and knew about you all. I am so sorry for your loss. As a patient in both individual therapy and couples groups and regular group, I never ceased to be amazed at Gerry's intelligence and creativity. After seeing other therapists over the years in Rochester, he was the only one who reached me. He was a terrific educator as well as being a very compassionate man who truly cared about his clients and tried to help them all. Because of Gerry's kind and patient therapy, I learned so much about how to take care of myself and live a truly happy life as a divorcee with a chronic illness. I am forever indebted to Gerry and am so grateful that he was recommended to me.
You all are in my thoughts and prayers and I send you my sincere condolences. I will never forget Gerry.
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Dottie Chilton posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Dear Mrs. Rubenstein and family: There are no words that begin to tell you how sorry I was to hear of Gerry's death. Many years ago he helped me establish a relationship with me dad, whom I had been estranged from for most of my life. My dad and I were able to become close and truly get to know one another. My dad died in March but the gift of our relationship was in so many ways due to Gerry. He was a wonderful man and a gifted healer. I am so sorry for your loss and you and your family are in my prayers.
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sally mechur posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Jennifer and Heather, I am so, so sad at the loss of your father. Please know that Melinda, Amy, and I are thinking of you and your family at this very difficult time.
Fondly, Sally Mechur
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Matt Guarino posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
I've know Gerry a very short period time and he had a prefound effect on my life. I'll miss him immensely and share with his families loss. My goal in life will be to live with Gerry's guidance and always be in remembrance of him.
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Andreas Pederson posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
True friends will last forever. Gerry was a true friend. We shared many personal and professional times together, some easy and some difficult. Gerry was always there as a resource and for support. He was truly a wise, trusted and noble man. He will be missed by many but forgotten by none.
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Salvatore Parlato posted a condolence
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Dear Eve,
Please accept my condolences on the untimely passing of your Gerald. Although I never had the pleasure of meeting him, I'm sure, knowing you as a teaching colleague, that he must have been a wonderful person and husband.
I also know that your spirituality and your numerous friends will be ready to help when called upon. I hope you'll count on me as one.
In sympathy,
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Cathy Ercolamento posted a condolence
Monday, August 27, 2007
Jerry was a giant, with a giant heart and there is a big empty space here without him.
with sadness,
Cathy Ercolamento and the Dept of Counseling & Human Development, Warner Graduate School
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Peter posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
I first met Gerry when we were at the UR Medical School Department of Psychiatiry. We published and presented a paper together, taught together and I had my private practice in the same building as Gerrry. He was always a generous, encourageing, funny and supportive colleague with whom I was proud and honored to spend some time and proud to call a friend. While we saw less and less of oneanother, when we met there was no distance evident from him. I am oin California and unable to attend his service, but my thoughts are with his family and his many colleagues who, I am sure, are as saddened as I am at our loss but blessed at having been touched by his life.
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George Haskins posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
I knew Dr. Jerry because I spent numerous hours with him on Alexander Street and East River Road. His expertise and interest allowed me to expose my inner self as I had done with no one else. He helped me understand myself, my New England parents, and my relationships with them as well as my relationships with my wives--one marriage ended in suicide and a second in divorce. He also met with my current wife--singly and as a couple.
Skeptically, I even went to one of his group sessions and, quite unexpecedly, became quite involved.
He was an excellent listener and facilitator. His ability to understand and provide counsel were outstanding.
His guidance was of significant benefit to me and undoubtedly has allowed my third marriage (her second) to continue. We are better able to cope with each other's foibles.
His physical self gave out far too soon. His soul will continue to live in those whom he helped. God Bless!
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Gloria Lopez-Solis posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
I am feeling both deep saddness and smiling joy in remembering Gerry: for all his loving kindness to me and my family, his many "toys", his look when a "secret mischief" was found out, his great love for his family...many loving memories that he shared of his family....My prayers go out to all his loved ones. Para Eve: Que el Dios le entrega a usted Su paz y Su presencia tierna siempre.
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marge Elder posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
I cannot begin to tell you of Jerry's impact on my life! He brought me through a very dark period with his sensitivity, his (sometimes corny) humor, his talent as a therapist,his spiritulality and connection with nature. He is still with me, helping me make decisions, bringing a smile to my face, keeping me centered and creative.
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Ed Lane posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Allow me to add my expression of sympathy to the many I know you have received. I was a client of Jerry's for about five years in the early 90's. Fine therapist that he was, he touched my life and the lives of others deeply. It seems that his only push at the opening of a session was the simple question: Who wants to work? Many of us will continue to work in his memory.
Ed Lane
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Marla Britton posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
You changed my life....you made me feel protected and safe and allowed me to take risks and experience change and guided me through all of it. Your brilliance and caring were so genuine...so deep. You have left a mark on my life and, I truly believe, many lives. Thank you Dr. R for sharing yourself with so many people. I have been inspired by your integrity, your passion and your desire to be true to oneself. I will never forget you. You will be forever deeply missed. I wish for your family that they walk with God during this time of loss and sadness.
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Fran Whitham posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Gerry will be sadly missed. I will always hold deeply in my heart all the support and wisdom he has given me. My deepest sympathy to his wife and family.
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Amy Campbell, Jeff Pealo, Cameron Campbell (Rochester) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Dear Eve,
Jeff Cameron and I are so very sorry for your loss, and Jennifer and Heather‘s loss, as Jerry was so forthcoming about his love for you and his daughters. I am so thankful to have known Jerry’s bear hugs, comfortable silences, Halloween masks, rituals, crazy birthday music, and backrubs for so long… along with so many things too numerous to name. I am so thankful to have met you through Jerry and to have been a part of your hospitality and kindness. I feel so lucky that my son was able to meet and spend time with both of you. You have both touched our whole family. Our hearts are with you.
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Maureen Logan (Berkeley, CA) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief
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Allan Schwartz (Rochester, NY) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
A friend and colleague for nearly 40 years, I will miss his Basso Profoundo, his bear hugs and our too infrequent, delightful lunches.
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Mary (Raquel) Fisher (pittsford, NY) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Mrs. Rubenstein,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Lynn Barbera (Rochester) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Eve,
I share your sorrow. I enjoyed the times when he would stop by Dr. Waldow's to kid with me. I also liked our "chats" when you stopped in and if you'd liked to re-connect, please contact me. Lynn from WJW's.
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Juli Hartman (Rochester, NY) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
I am deeply saddened to hear about Dr Rubenstein's passing. He was a phenomenal teacher loved by all. I will never forget his fertility doll that I rubbed constantly in his class only to find out about 7 months later that I was pregnant with TWINS! Thanks Dr. R. You will be greatly missed and always remembered!
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Carla Daughton (Rochester, NY) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow. I hope that it helps in some small way knowing that Dr. Rubenstein helped my family and most recently myself in changing our lives for the better with his guidence and wisdom. Because of Gerry, I am, for the first time in my life, peaceful and content, with the exception of the deep sorrow I am feeling at the worlds loss of such a wonderful man.
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The DeJohn Family (Los Angeles, CA) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Gerry, the world is a less interesting place without your presence. We will miss your passion, wit, humor, honesty, dancing, voice mail greetings, baratone voice, big hugs and unique view on all things. I can only thank God that we were able to share some moments before you left us. Our deepest sympathies to Eve, Jennifer and Heather. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
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Laura Wortman (Colville, WA) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Gerry, Thank you for your unfailing strength and wisdom. You are always in our hearts, forever.
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Robert & Margaret Dostie (Penfield, NY) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Gerry, Your accurate observations and alacrity will be missed. Our deepest sympathy to Eve, Jennifer and Heather on the loss of a wonderful human being.
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Morris Wortman (Rochester, NY) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
My deepest condolences to Eve, Jennifer and Heather on the loss of this wonderful husband and father. He touched thousands of lives and meant so much to so many.
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Shannon Delaney (San Francisco, CA) posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
"Ger" you are one of the most incredible people I ever got to know. Your sound advice will be deeply missed but forever in our hearts. You were a blessing to many.
-Shannon Delaney
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Mike Kuster posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Eve,
I am so sorry for your loss. Just seems that life is not always fair. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Mike
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Ray C. posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
Gerry...you made a difference in my life when I was ready to extinguish mine.
I am here today because of you!
Raymond
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Patti Dobrovitz Ronsvalle, MSW, LCSW posted a condolence
Sunday, August 26, 2007
My sincere condolences to Eve, Jennifer and Heather. I am so sad to hear of my friend's death. The world's light will dim a bit today. What an amazing man he was. I have a lifetime of memories--the early years were so very fun. He was my mentor and buddy since 1975...
That gentle, deep voice, twinkling eyes and quick brilliant wit will stay with me forever. Goodbye My Friend-love and peace. Patti
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Stephen Demanchick posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
I remember Gerry telling me that connections always exist between any group of people. For example, some members might share a common birthplace or some members might have a common acquaintance. I test this theory to this day and find that Gerry was right. The skill, as Gerry put it, was to appreciative of these connections. Gerry would say to his students, "Get curious".
He was a master at facilitating human relationships. He was expert at helping people see the obvious in the complex.
I am deeply saddened by Gerry's passing and will miss him dearly. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.
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chuck leport posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
Years ago I was part of a group that went by bus with Gerry to a therapy marathon in Buffalo, comprising 24 hours of group therapy in one weekend. Sunday afternoon, the event concluded, elated and exhausted, we climbed on the bus to return to Rochester. Gerry was the last one on. He stood in the aisle looking at us, his face filled with a joyful smile. Raising his arms victoriously in the air he shouted that wonderful line from Zorba, the Greek, "A MAN LIKE ME SHOULD LIVE FOR A THOUSAND YEARS!"
We laughed because of the joy, and cheered because of the truth.
I feel we've been cheated I also think that, had he been given the choice, he would have reveled in celebrating life for another 937.
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Nancy Leport posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
Thanks for your insights and wisdom and especially your sense of humor, irreverant as it was!
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Laura Norris posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
I first met Jerry when I was a teenager and sought his help again more than 20 years later. It was a great comfort to me to have him to return to and provide his help and guidance . . . and he when he hugged me, he never did the pat-pat-pat on the back that we all do because we are squeamish about hugging and he was never the first one to let go, which, for such a small thing, felt like it made a huge difference. Rest in peace, Jerry.
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Jim, Shirley, Brian posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
Dear Eve, we are so saddened by your loss. Jerry was a wonderful human being who gave to all who came to him for words. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
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Jim, Shirley, Brian posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
Dear Eve, we are so saddened by your loss. Jerry was a wonderful human being who gave to all who came to him for words. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
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Karen Gibson posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
When my dog passed away, someone close to me suggested that I was hard-hearted because I wasn't crying. Gerry told me that grief is cumulative.
Gerry, you've got me crying for that damn dog this week.
I will always seek ways to honor you, by loving others as you loved us, your students.
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Suzanne Hill (Fumia) posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
Dear Eve,
I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Amanda McCormick-Tavelaris posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
I will never forget meeting Jerry my first semester at the U of R. He let me tell him about my previous graduate work, my anxieties and fears and his class changed my whole perspective. I will never forget our class or you Jerry-you are a one of a kind man, such a gentle soul and someone who I will carry with me in my heart forever. You will be missed so much by so many, including myself.
Thank you for everything-you helped me more than you will ever know. I can only hope through my work as a therapist I can do you some justice.
Love and prayers,
Amanda
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Eula Serrino posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
I was so sorry to hear of Gerry's passing. About 25 years ago, I sought his professional help at a time when I was struggling in my personal life..with his help , I was able to turn my life around. He was kind, caring,and knew just how to help me help myself. Although I have not sought his help in many years, I have always held the thought that he would be there if I needed him again. I share your loss of this wonderful man and my thoughts and prayers are with you, his family.
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Mary Huston posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
God bless the soul of Dr. Jerry. Who in his lifetime guided many souls through their personal trials, onto wholeness. It is with great sadness that I express my deepest condolences to Jerry's family. May his Love and Light continue to be with you as source of comfort. May the circle of Love envelop you and soften your sorrows.
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Patricia Marx posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
Jerry,
You were a certainly a candle when my world was so dark.I always felt so lucky to have had you for my therapist! Now I know that that was God's plan for me. May you rest in peace.
Patricia
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Janine Mesiti posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
What i will always remember about Jerry is that he was always the life of a party. His stories held everyone captivated, he and Eve have so many conversation pieces around their home. He will be greatly missed. My grandparents are now enjoying his company in heaven, they always loved his stories!
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Donna Reynolds posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
I am so sorry to hear of Gerry's passing. My memories of Gerry are about appreciation. Gerry was the person who supported and guided me through many difficult times. As a result of his guidence and support I have been living a full and loving life. Thank-you Gerry. My thoughts an prayers to all of his family.
Donna Reynolds
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Amy posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
Gerry,
I'll always remember how kind you were to me when I called you for advice. It always warmed my heart to hear Eve talk about you because she had such love and adoration for you it was always so touching.You were certainly well loved. Rest in Peace,Amy
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Debi Camardo posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2007
Eve
I just couldn't believe what Jason had told me Thursday night that Jerry was gone. If you need anything please call.
All my love,
debi
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